There’s work and school and dinner to be made. You have bills to pay, errands to run and events to attend. How do people have time for themselves?
By creating a routine, you can identify your nonnegotiables and be flexible with the rest. You can pinpoint what habits bring you energy and which ones are time-wasters.
HOW TO CREATE YOUR ROUTINE
The key is not to add to your schedule, but to simplify it. Use these tips to create a routine that helps you reach your goals.
1. Write down your set-time essentials.
For example: wake and bed times, work/school start and end times, meal times.
2. Write down your flexible essentials.
For example: chores, errands, reply to emails.
3. Choose one goal to add to your schedule.
Referring to your goal list you made, choose ONE goal and find a free time for it in your schedule each day. For example: go to the gym, quiet Bible study time, play a game with the kids
4. Update your goals as you reach them.
Reaching your goals will be measured by your own standards. Do you want to do the same thing 21 days in a row? Three times a week for a month? Set your specifics and reward your milestones. Then build on what you’ve accomplished.
As you reach your goals, you may need to take them off the chart and replace them with a new goal. Other times, you may want to build on that goal by keeping your first goal in place and finding another chunk of time to work on your second goal.
Your routine should basically stay the same from day to day, with minor adjustments as you go throughout the year. The key to reaching goals is consistency, so try not to rock the routine too much, otherwise it won’t set in and become automatic.
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Have big goals but not making any progress on reaching them? Follow these six steps to set yourself up for success and learn why you’re getting stuck.
WHY YOU’RE NOT REACHING YOUR GOALS
So you’ve set a goal. You want to get up early, you want to eat healthier, you want to be more present with your family, but…it’s not happening. Why?
You did all this work setting these big goals and dreams, but life is too busy, fast food is too convenient, plus there’s your job, and the house and all the other stuff you can’t think of right now because you’re too tired to remember.
Well friend, it’s not hopeless for you. I promise! You just need a few things in place to help set yourself up for success. For example, you wouldn’t expect your kids to learn to read without giving them a few tools and practices to start, right? You can’t just throw a few books at a kid and say READ! You use strategies:
GOAL: Get MY child to read
Enroll in school
Buy easy reader books to have at home
Read to my child daily
Teach her the ABCs
Practice letter sounds
So why do we set ourselves up for failure when it comes to reaching our own goals? I’m speaking to the choir here. Why do I tell myself to eat healthier and then add chocolate chip cookie ice cream sandwiches to the grocery list?
The problem isn’t with our goals, the problem is the strategies we use to achieve them.
6 STEPS TO REACHING YOUR GOALS
First, if you haven’t set goals for yourself, go back and read this post.
Then choose ONE goal you want to work on. I know you’re going to want to tackle them all, but too much at once is setting yourself up for failure. Focus on ONE goal at a time.
The impatient part of me is struggling with this too. I want to go faster, I want to do more! But seriously, go slow. Get good at ONE goal, and then build on it. Don’t go halfway on a goal and then pick up another one along the way. Chances are, you’ll reach neither. Get good at one thing before you move to the next.
1. NARROW IT DOWN
Want to exercise more? Great! But if you expect to be motivated every day for the next 30 days, you’re kidding yourself. Try to pinpoint specifics you want to accomplish, rather than general ideas.
“Exercise more” vs “I want to exercise for 30 minutes 3 times a week.”
“Sell my crafts online” vs “I want to open an Etsy shop, create 5 new products and buy business cards by the end of the year.”
“Be more present with my kids” vs “I want to set a bedtime for my kids where I’ll read a story to them each night and play a board game after school.”
2. GET MOTIVATED
Why is it that you are even working toward this goal? Write down all the reasons you want to achieve it and refer to it when you feel like making excuses or giving up.
GOAL: EAT HEALTHIER
Increase my energy
Lower my cholesterol levels
Reduce the amount of medications I take
Improve my moods
Model healthy eating habits for my children
3. MAKE IT REALISTIC
You may be super excited about reaching big goals, but you have to be realistic in what you’re asking of yourself. If you’re wanting your child to potty train, you can’t expect it to happen overnight. Any area where you want to grow will take time and patience.
GOAL: LEARN HOW TO PLAY THE PIANO
Buy a beginner’s book. (1 week)
Learn how to read music. (1 month)
Memorize scales. (1 month)
Play a song using two hands. (1 week)
Learn Moonlit Sonata. (2 weeks)
4. TRACK YOUR PROGRESS
Find a way to track your progress that you enjoy. Is it checking off a list? Marking off dates on the calendar? Tally marks on the bathroom mirror? Make it fun! Get creative! Buy a cute notebook and write down what you did each day to get yourself closer to the end goal.
5. REWARD YOURSELF
There will be bumps along the way. There will be days where you want to skip, cheat or quit. Give yourself tangible checkpoints to set up little rewards along the way.
GOAL: WRITE A BOOK
Read 3 books by authors I admire in that genre (get to shop for a writer’s notebook)
Brainstorm ideas and set up an outline (can watch that movie you’ve been wanting to see)
Have a goal of reading 52 books in a year? Well it’s June and you’re at 12, so maybe you need to change up your goal instead of neglecting everything else to try and keep up! Remember, these goals are to help you become a better version of yourself, not to turn yourself into a stressed out, to-do-list-making monster.
If you feel like maybe you need to break your goal down further, or set the deadline to a later date, that’s your call! You are the one in charge, set yourself up for success, not failure!
PRINT YOUR GOAL WORKSHEET
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Here’s a sample goal:
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Being stuck in survival mode is like prison. You feel like there’s no hope, no escape and it will always be like this. But you know what? These are all lies.
Fear keeps us imprisoned, hope gives us freedom. You know how I conquered all of these fears? I learned to quit my endless pity party (it’s ok to acknowledge these things are real and they are hard, but not to stay there), and make a change.
They say that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. (I’m guilty of this!) So let’s make a few changes and see how it affects our results.
WHAT ARE SMART GOALS (+ EXAMPLES)?
If you’ve been digging into goal setting for any amount of time, you’ll probably have come across the term “smart goals”. A SMART Goal is actually an acronym for how to set a realistic goal so you can reach it. Here are the steps to setting (and reaching!) your next goal:
1. S – Specific
Make sure the goal you’re setting is detailed. You want to get as specific as you can. Try to answer the question: What specifically are you trying to accomplish? If you set a goal to read more, you are less likely to reach it than if you set a specific goal like read 20 books this year.
I love Goodreads for setting and tracking your personal reading goals!
2. M – Measurable
How will you measure your progress? Reading 20 books a year is a great goal, but you don’t want to to get to December and have 15 left to meet your goal! Break it down into milestones you can measure.
If you have 4 quarters in a year, then your measurable goal should be to read 5 books a quarter.
3. A – Attainable
Now ask yourself if this goal is doable. Do you actually have time to read 5 books a quarter? Where will you find the time for this activity? Maybe you reserve your weekends or early mornings for reading. Do you only read on vacation or can you use an audiobook while you clean the house?
You could add this to your reading goal: I will read 20 books this year by reading 5 books a quarter using Audible when I clean on weekdays and spend 2 hours reading on the weekend.
4. R – Relevant
Next you need to double check that your goal is relevant for the season you are in. Ask yourself: Is this the right time for me to be setting this goal? Is this where I want to focus my time and effort?
To continue using the reading goal example, did you set the goal to read more so that you can grow in wisdom by learning about important subject matters? Do you find that reading is a stress-reliever? Then this is a great goal!
If you find that reading only makes you procrastinate on what’s important or the material you read causes you more stress, then maybe this isn’t the goal you need right now.
5. T – Timely
Last, you want to set a target date to reach the goal so that you know when you’ve accomplished it. We did that already when we got really specific on our year end goal. The specific was to read 20 books instead of simply reading more. We were timely when we set the goal to do it in one year.
A FEW MORE SMART GOAL EXAMPLES
Here are a few ideas to get you started:
LOSE WEIGHT vs Lose 7 pounds (measurable) by cutting out sugar except for Friday night (specific) and working out for 30 minutes 3 days a week (attainable) by June 1st (timely) because I want to fit in my bathing suit for summer (relevant).
WRITE IN MY JOURNAL MORE vs Write one journal entry (measurable) in the morning at 7:00 am (specific) every day by setting an alarm (attainable) for the next 30 days (timely) so that I can learn my triggers for stress (relevant).
READ MY BIBLE MORE vs Listen to one chapter of the Bible (measurable) on an app every night (specific) while I do the dishes (attainable) and finish the book of Genesis by May 31st (timely) so that I can make a habit of regular Bible study (relevant).
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