Interview Yourself with these Self Awareness Worksheets

Apart from your role as mother, wife, employee, friend–who are you? Sometimes we’re not even sure who we are until we intentionally sit down and work it out for ourselves. Take the first step to learn who you are with these free self awareness worksheets.

WHAT IS SELF AWARENESS?

Remember those quizzes from Cosmo and Seventeen magazines growing up? There was always the sassy girl, the sexy girl, the shy girl, the friends-with-everyone girl, the trouble maker…

It seems like every quiz or personality test I’ve ever taken in my life has landed me in the “middle” category. At first it’s great, because you learn you are easily adaptable, people generally like you, and you go with the flow.

I wanted to be different, but not too different. When all the other girls were choosing the flute in middle school, I chose the trombone. When everyone took Spanish, I took German. All of my friends went to school in-state, I grabbed the first out of state option.

I didn’t want to be boxed in by anyone else’s expectations of me, but I also didn’t want to upset the flow.

(Side note: now here I am 20 years not having any use for trombone or German…)

The point is, I had no self-awareness. I wasn’t sure of who I was or who I wanted to be.

THINGS I’VE LEARNED ABOUT MYSELF

Fast forward to getting married and having kids, it’s harder and harder to have your own individuality. You have to consider everyone else’s needs in your family, and often as mothers and wives, we forget who we are or wanted to be.

Last year I took yet another personality quiz—the enneagram and found myself once again identifying with pretty much every number on the list. I felt like it was the boring number. The number that said, you’re not special, your opinions don’t matter.

I wanted to be the bold, outgoing 7 or the performer number 3. My sister felt I was the individualist number 4 (because she saw this side of me trying to be different), but then I didn’t want to be that one because she told me I was!

What I realized was that I didn’t know enough about myself—I was going to everyone else and trying to get their opinion. It felt that their opinions were more important than my own. It wasn’t until I owned my own opinion, that I came to the conclusion that I was a 9. Ironically, that type is the peacemaker–even though I was fighting against it the entire time.

Generally, Nines are patient, steady, easygoing, receptive, relaxed, unselfconscious, agreeable, uncomplicated, contented, comforting, sensual and idealizing.

Nines get into conflicts by being emotionally unavailable, complacent, inattentive, unaware of their own anger, ineffectual, passive-aggressive, unrealistic, resigned and stubborn. 

At their best, Nines are self-aware, dynamic, inclusive, steadfast, healing, proactive, contemplative, natural, imaginative, serene, and exuberant, engaged and passionate."

-From my results of The Enneagram Institute Test

Now that I can be open to seeing what my strengths and weaknesses are, I can own them—and change those bad habits in my life.

So back to those quizzes and lists of favorite things? I’m obsessed with them now because I am defining who I am and what I love. I’m learning that it’s a strength to know yourself—to be self aware.

When we dig in and learn what we’re passionate about, what we love to do, and understand the way things in our past have shaped us, we can grow and become more confident with who we are. The more confident you feel, the less insecurity can have a say in your life.

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You are not just a wife or a mother. You are a woman. A person with her own passions and dreams and goals!

Take this time to be reminded that we cannot help ourselves if we don’t understand who we are.

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Reduce Your Daily Stress with this Self Care Checklist

We know we should take care of ourselves, but sometimes it hard to know where to start. Let me break it down for you with this free printable daily self care checklist.

Daily self care checklist

THE PROBLEM WITH AVOIDANCE

In the past, when life got hard, it made me anxious, so I did what I do best: avoidance.

I felt like I was always stressed and that’s just the way life would always be–so my strategy for dealing with it was basically denial. If I didn’t acknowledge it, it couldn’t affect me. Right?

But when I became sick with Lyme disease and my doctors told me to try to address and eliminate stress in my life, I laughed. Like out loud.

I didn’t know that was a thing. For real—to be able to get rid of stress in your life?

Stress had become something I could no longer avoid or deny. Stress may not have caused my Lyme disease, but I was learning it was directly impacting my healing. Through the guidance of doctors, a lot of self-help books and self-reflection, I have learned ways to actually reduce stress in my life.

START WITH MINDSET

A lot of our stress starts with mindset. We have to actively CHOOSE how to view our days and circumstances. The first thing I did was to start a gratitude journal. Every day I would list 3 things that I was grateful for or I did well. Over time I began to see hope in my day to day where there was none before.

I also found a sign that said “Choose Joy” and hung it in a spot where I would see it first thing in the morning. It was a daily reminder that I could choose my mindset–that I didn’t have to be a victim of the hardships of life.

I began taking the time to wake up early before my family to have a minute to myself, and started a daily meditation practice that GREATLY improved how I reacted to stressful situations.

I learned that a lot of the stress in my life was actually self-inflicted. Meaning, I was creating habits that would stress me out or build situations up in my mind where I believed there was a problem when there wasn’t. Being self-aware is a discipline, and one we all need to practice on a regular basis if we want to be able to deal with stress in healthier ways.

HOW ARE YOU DEALING WITH YOUR STRESS?

What would happen in your life if you intentionally took time EVERY DAY to do something that helped you deal with stress in a way that caused it to not completely run your life?

I started slow. And over the years I’ve added things I can do to help me with this avoidance mindset and deal with my anxiety:

I started forming better habits—and learned ways to actually reach goals! Over time, I learned empathy and the power of being the first to reach out. I saw people in need to help even when I was struggling.

Self care is not selfish—we all need it—it’s what helps us grow into the people we want to become!

PRINT THIS FREE DAILY SELF CARE CHECKLIST

It can be hard to know where to start, so I’ve made it easy for you. Print this free Daily Self Care Checklist and I want you to do ONE THING each day for the next couple weeks. As you go through them, write down more ideas you have on the back and do those too!

Daily self care checklist

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If you want to reduce stress in your life, you need to be intentionally taking care of yourself. Maybe you need to get up earlier to make time or set an alarm for the middle of the day. I don’t care when you do it, just do it! You’ve got this, friend.

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How to Slow Down Your Day

Stop the glorification of busy and take care of yourself. You’ll be surprised that by slowing down, your productivity will increase! I teach you how to slow down with 5 tips.

NEEDING MORE TIME VS TAKING A TIME OUT

Most of us are not even sure how to slow down. You have a million things to get done but not sure where your to-do list is, and you haven’t sat still for a minute to even eat lunch. Sound familiar?

After I started doing so much better with my health, the overload from multitasking and trying to “do it all” led me to a new problem: exhaustion and burnout. Which led to more frequent flare-ups and frustration.

I depleted my energy resources into every task that appeared before me and forgot to do what was most important for my own productivity: rest.

Most of us aren’t even sure how to slow down.

The glorification of busy is a real problem in our society, and mental health issues are on the rise. While multitasking has it’s benefits, it also has its downfalls. Are you surrounded by half-completed projects? Or are you finishing projects only to find your health is suffering for it? Have you become a workaholic, or someone who’s constantly saying, I don’t have time for this?

What if I told you that you would actually be more productive if you took more breaks and time for yourself? I’m telling you, re-prioritizing and taking care of yourself can do wonders for your productivity.

Whether you’re an unorganized mama, dealing with drama at work or just simply tired all the time, mindfulness has a benefit for you.

Give it a try. Slow down, be present. How? I’ll walk you through 5 reasons why you need to practice mindfulness today.

5 REASONS TO SLOW DOWN YOUR DAY

1. SET YOUR PRIORITIES

Multitasking doesn’t not equal success. When you multitask, you leave a wake of unfinished projects if you’re not careful. You aren’t able to give your best if you can’t focus on the task at hand. I found that when I stop multitasking and work off a list, the laundry gets done, the game plays on without interruption and the person on the phone gets my undivided attention.

How are you progressing through the day? Are you putting off what needs to be done and distracting yourself with menial tasks? Set your top three priorities for the day and tackle those first. It will free up so much room in your mind for calm and clarity.

2. RELAX YOUR BODY

I feel like a multitasking machine only to crash and burn right before school gets out and dinner needs to be made. Scheduling gentle exercise each day to check in with my pain level has had major benefits on my physical health. Do a quick 10 minute yoga session to focus on slowing your breathing and to quiet your mind.

3. CALM YOUR MIND

Many times when we’re overworked and stressed out, our breathing is sporadic or too fast. Stopping to practice slow and steady breathing has multiple health benefits including lowering stress levels. Take a few minutes to calm your mind by meditating. Stop doing and simply be.

4. WORK THROUGH A PROBLEM

Not sure where to start on a project? Need to give advice to a friend? Take a break from the problem and get some good old sunshine. Revisit the problem in an hour or so when you’ve given yourself some much needed space and vitamin D.

5. TAKE A “ME” BREAK

One thing I work into my schedule each day since I got sick is rest time. Sometimes I take a nap, sometimes I watch a show. My body can’t keep up like it used to and I pay for it at night if I haven’t intentionally scheduled breaks. Don’t like to sit still? Relax with a hobby.

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Hope this encourages you to take a minute to slow down today! You’ve got this!

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